The weight we carry….in our bags and on our minds!

I heard from someone long time back that we should use our minds as a briefcase and not as a suitcase!

Food for thought indeed…how many people actually do that!! Consciously/unconsciously people are always loaded with some sort of burden(and must say, some of which is avoidable and most of which is not needed at all…) And to make the situation even acute, this internet age can have some credit too :):)

And this generation has completely lost it by trying to find solace in retail therapy and their bags and minds are in stiff competition and suffer serious weighty issues! Needless to say in all of this the pocket gets lighter though!

To move or not to….

There are times when the furniture around the house seems more mobile than me!…..they seem to have more of the change in the scenery or view. Just until the last week the couch was leaning hopelessly next to the bedroom wall and now is refreshingly in control with its back to the terrace/balcony all poised and confident. Giving a new impression to the all new dining table, who is in total of the colour of its neighbour oblivious to all history of it 🙂 🙂 it’s generating a chuckle too many to see the plants leading here in the race of being the fittest and also already having had explored all the possible corners (which have been green) before!  The only constant in all these moving arounds is the essence of it all…..sense of togetherness, no matter which corners!

Mera woh matlab nahin tha…we never say what we mean

This post is inspired from a play titled”Mera woh matlab nahin tha”we never say what we mean.

(No its not any promotion or anything, just the title was so intriguing and interesting…and i dont know anything more about this play other than that its lead characters are Neena Gupta and Anupam Kher)

Somewhat similar phrase,”Mere kehne ka matlab tha..” happens to be a frequent of sorts in many households too! and just like the guessing weather of the place where we live….keeps me guessing why in any relationship interpretational skills are always questioned whereas clear and crisp conversation is kind of becoming a lost art!

Why cant we be more transparent and clear in our expressions that there is no room left for second helpings of explanations and at times way too generous ones…leading to extended and out of context arguments! sigh! Only if life could come with a mute button. It would have been rather a joyride to mute unwanted dialogues and keep it all simple and pleasant..

If only people could be a little more mindful, relations could be much more meaningful and rewarding!!

Is it just the responsibility of the over sensitive ones…to introspect?

Relationship chaos

This post is the first one from the series of post under this category.

The first one worth a mention is a lady who over the years have opened up to me from just a casual hello to telling about her troubled marriage. Things are hopefully looking up for her or so as she says. But the last a little over year had been full of constant ups and downs. She would break down right in front of her daughter and needless to say in public too. Looking at her one can never think of a vulnerable her but like they say! appearances are deceptive.

We are so quick to resort to our judgments about others that we forget to see behind the pretense…. They say people have multiple sides to them with all people. That is for some they might come across as a very strong individual while totally opposite with another! It may be so because of the varying levels of comfort…which can never be the same in all the cases.

We can never be as open and ourselves in front of a very dominating or demeaning personality. And it takes some sense of confidence to be our real selves in front of someone. For some that confidante can be parents/parent, sibling, a close friend, neighbor, colleague….but not everyone is lucky!

How much troubled a person is behind the calm face and how much effort has been put while doing so, just not to be the target of prying eyes and wagging tongues.

 

 

Funny case of a dog on the treadmill :)

Ever wondered at this marvel called life from a dog’s perspective?Pets(in this case a dog) getting inspired by their owners! perhaps or it could be the case of extensive advertisements by the fitness industry these days:) that even the pets are getting inspired!!

The best part is the persistence! I am talking about a fitness freak dog here. Couldn’t be a case of boredom or loneliness because in that case like us he would have taken into sulking/over sleeping if not overeating,mindless TV  watching and the list is endless …in his case he could be just scaring or barking at every passersby or starting to chew on everything from slippers to what not…(isn’t this what is expected from a DOG?) but let me tell you this dog has chosen to tirelessly run to and back in the balcony at every instance of letting out or the door being open!

Its kind of amusing to think about its state of mind! We happen to see him more often than not. And must say that at times we are compelled to see outside our window just to check on him 🙂 (its like a latest family obsession and a ritual) and we are rarely disappointed. And he is across our building at a higher level than ours.

Inspiring indeed! Talk about making the best of the circumstances!

On the contrary there is this another much pampered and taken care of dog and who happens to live on the first floor of our building. Constantly taken out for the walk but both the owner and him seem to be in a competition of sorts that who will win the award for the most ridiculous expression on their faces! And its a close tie to say the least 🙂

The Lady and the Man of the house are taking turns to take him out, at regular intervals throughout the day(i guess they have made this into a post retirement occupation!)

They all seem fed up of each other or the regular walks 🙂 🙂 hard to make out!

More updates…..as time goes by!

 

Longsighted……humor behind the cloud!

Thoughts to ponder: Do near ones (close relations) tend to get longsighted with time or is it all in our minds? Or its more of a case of each mind understanding/interpreting according to its own capacity/inclination/circumstances…. and the list goes on!! Just as in our everyday lives, if we are disturbed about anything howsoever minor it maybe(here again “the minor” is subjective) it impacts rest of the compartments too. The signs though may or may not be visible right away, but the affect is there. How we are today in our dealings and feelings have a lot to do with preconceived notions too. Consciously or not when we see/hear around us it does get a place on our minds and unfortunately/fortunately a significant at times!

And yes! Human minds are complex indeed!

The idea of writing my thoughts in a blog was the result of tendinitis(no no writing a blog is not part of the treatment) to give my arms some rest i was forced not to do weight lifting (in my case its not direct weights as in any gym but my compulsive rearranging furniture(a ritual more regular than not), pots and all…and also no more carrying BIG HAND BAGS(which have almost become like a part of my personality!! But having said that the size of my bags have an unusual quality too they expand even more that i would like to believe that with time they have acquired this accommodating trait from me:), you see like in families the members learn from each other!!

I feel a complete blog post about “the curious case of my bags” should follow in the coming days!!

And this post is the funny outcome of us talking casually ( husband and wife)!!(typical after years of being together…your ‘said’ expectations usually fall flat and not to mention the ‘unsaid’ ones… Taken for granted is the clue here 🙂 So our conversation lead to this thought that maybe  its time for the husband to get the glasses (Long sightedness,  affects a person’s ability to see objects close to them) and perhaps i may add (feel) too to it!!What say? 🙂

Worry as a habit

It is one of those over thinking kind of  days, when you just happen to spin your own web of thoughts and then get stuck in it.  And it goes without saying that once you enter into this season or phase of being a worrier then these sort of days are more regular than the sun in the winters 🙂

One thought leads to another and before you know, you are at a dead end and you happen to have forgotten the original seed from where the worry sprung and you are just on auto pilot! Worrying indeed! But nothing in particular, just keeping up with its physical symptoms!!

Worrying is a habit(not to be proud of) and am a pro!! Oh! How i wish to be a little bit on the thicker skin side!!(work in progress!!)

But as they say worry solves no issues, rather creates the ones which were never even there. So picking myself up as always, changing one thought at a time!

Self help is the best help.

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